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Being alone

When I moved to Copenhagen a lot of people asked me, what am I going to do when my boyfriend, who is a professional footballer, will go on his everyday training. Or what am I going to do when he will be on his training camp. They were trying to tell me that I will be alone and that this is something negative that I don't want to experience. A lot of people understand this ' alonetime ' as a negative state of being . Thinking about it can be really uncomfortable for them.  We have to learn how to enjoy the empty moments in our life . We don't have to be busy all the time. From time to time we just have to stop  and take a deep breath  and think about the things that are happening at the moment, because being alone helps us to figure things out .  I am sure that a lot of us don't really understand how important it is to have some time just for ourself . But that doesn't mean that we are lonely ...We have to distinguish aloneness and lonelin

Grab a pencil and write down your long-term goals!

Do you have any long-term goals? Or do you just think that is better to live from day to day? I can tell you, that it is not, so grab a pencil and write down your long-term goals. And then stay motivated to achieve them… Grit is a very important personality trait , which means that you are dedicated to higher long-term goals with enthusiasm . I know… Easy to say hard to do… But grit is strongly related to well-being ! That means that grittier individuals think more optimistic and have more positive expectations about self, life and the world. They are more productive and creative ! But something is between grit and well-being… something connects both of them  - satisfaction of the two basic psychology needs, Autonomy and competence ! Autonomy is a need for behaving upon our volition and competence refers to fulfilling our capacities. We can simply say: Grittier people are more capable of satisfying their needs of autonomy and competence, which impro